Every night before bed, we ask the kids to say what their 3 favourite things were that happened that day. A few nights ago when I asked Chancery, she said “the Deal” was one of her favourite things.
Now, the kids are not allowed to watch TV or play video games until 5pm, but I had made a deal with them at 4:30, that if they could play nicely together with no fighting or arguing, they could watch TV at 4:45. About 5 minutes into it, they were fighting & arguing. I started coming up the stairs, & Chancery said, “No, Mummy, we are talking about it!”
They wanted to sort it out on their own. However, I have 2 very stubborn, opinionated children, & neither one would back down from the injustice they thought they were suffering from at the other one’s hand. So I had to get involved.
It was now 4:45pm. Chancery asked if they could have a new deal. So, I told them that if they could not fight or argue for the next 10 minutes they could watch TV early (it was only 5 minutes early, but any extra time is extra fun!). This time they had a tiff, but they talked it out (instead of fighting it out), & they managed to get the 5 minutes extra.
Even though the first attempt was unsuccessful, the second worked, & Chancery said it was one of her favourite things from that day. Maybe I’ll have to make more deals!