Good Friends

I feel like I don't really have any good friends around me. I really miss the old kind of friendships I used to have when I was younger. Where you just hang out and talk face to face and your friends understand where you're coming from and if you maybe say something stupid, they still know what you're really trying to say. I guess maybe it's just hard to feel really connected to someone when you only talk to them on the phone once a week... or month.... or maybe less. I'll give you an example of what I mean. We'll call my friend "Amy".

Amy and I grew up together and used to hang out all the time. We were really close. Practically sisters. Now we maybe talk on the phone every 2-3 months. Most the conversation ends up being about old times and the fun we had. That lasts about 10 minutes or so. Now I'm married and have a kid and she is still single. What do we have in common? Old times. But I still consider her one of my closest friends. Maybe she doesn't consider me all that close anymore, I don't know. We did see each other a while ago and even then it was kinda awkward. What do we talk about? If we just me now would we ever forge a friendship or was it just that we had things in common way back when? The main problem now is distance. If we lived close by, we could do things together and keep the friendship current, but we don't and there isn't much we can do about that.

I have another friend "Deb" who lives in town. I used to work with her, but now I am a stay at home mom. She switched companies, so I can't go visit her at work anymore. She isn't married and has no kids. She'd say she's kind of nervous around kids. Asher is a big part of my day/life now. How do we stay close? She works all day, so we can't get together then. Often in the evenings she isn't free until later, 7 or after. I am then trying to give Asher his bath and get him in bed. I don't want to stay out too late b/c there will be no sleeping-in in the morning. When Asher gets up, I have to as well.

So, what am I to do? How do I stay current with my friends that don't live close? How can I remain close to those friends who are living nearby, but who are in different stages of life? Do I just have to get all new friends each time I enter a new phase of life and wait until my old friends catch up? What about my friends in other states/countries? Do I just leave them behind?

Spring

Well, it's been awhile since I wrote, so I figured I should. The snow is pretty much all melted now. It was taller than my mailbox last week. Now I have an ugly brown lawn to look at. I suppose it's better than slogging thru slush. I'm really looking forward to nice weather again. Last summer I was in maternity clothes, this summer I will return to short and t-shirts...... at least if it's warm enough.

We are in the process of selling our house. I find it quite stressful b/c now I have to keep all our stuff hidden in closets, and the baby gates are gone. Asher decided the radio wasn't loud enough the other day, so he pulled the speaker onto his walker so he could carry it around.... the wires only stretch so far though! I think the hardest part though is keeping the house clean. I've never been good at vacuuming regularly, and I tend to leave dusting for a few months at a time, and now I have to try to keep up and do them EVERY WEEK just in case someone wants to see the house. :)